There are 4 of us who care for my Dad. He lives in a senior home in his own condo, and has mild dementia. We all share time with him to visit in AM (Sister doesn't work) and at evening (for company and to check mail) and on the weekends for company and exercise. We went to see a family counselor to try to make sure we are all handling things fairly. Counselor said nothing is fair with family, so we have been working as a team, respecting each other. My Sister is leaving for a 3 week vacation. She is taking my brother with her. That leaves all the visits up to me and my sister. My daughters wanted to take me to Mother's Day on Sat as on that Sunday my oldest daughter is graduating with her PhD in Chemistry and she is walking for her graduation. Those two days and the only other time I asked for is a few hours for my younger daughters birthday, which is the weekend they are all coming home. All of the other nights, weekend breakfasts and lunches and Sundays have fallen to me as my sister only wants to go on weekday mornings. WE have one more counseling session left AFTER they return from vacation. I don't believe a three week vacation with 1/2 the "TEAM" we have is realistic in terms of equal sharing. HOW DO I convey this point at our counseling session so that the people who went on vacation are not mad? Ths counselor pointed out that we are all we have together, and need to respect each other. BUT I am being honest when I say I don't respect this 3 week vacation with 2 people going at the same time. What do I say?