New to site, glad to find ya'll! I have two problems. 1) I have a 77 yr. old widow Mom who wants me to wait on her hand & foot, which she denied months later. She is a controlling person and is very stubborn till she gets what she wants. She has back and left leg problems under medical care now. They recommend more motion and the only way I can make her do this is by having her get up and do for herself. Otherwise, she can stay still up to 16 hrs. at a time, really bad for her. I check everything out with her doctors, even the made up stuff. She'll call her sisters and my sister and tell them I need to show her more compassion. I then get the polite phone calls supporting her wants instead of what is best for her. Should I politely respond to the family and tell them the truth about what is going on? I could really use their help to get Mom to do the doctors' advice, instead of enabling her. 2) Out of 3 kids, I am the only one to care for Mom. We wanted Mom to live in our house but my sister, controlling herself, insisted Mom get her own house and put it on our farm. She is now bitter because she did not run the remodeling of the house, we did what my mom wanted. Mom decided that we inherit the house because we are her caregivers. Everything about the house is in our name and it is written on a piece of paper, signed by Mom. My sister has POA and MPOA, decided years ago but she is showing signs of not following Mom's wishes already. I worry about her following Mom's wishes and her trying to get the house. She and my brother inherit everything else without lifting a finger. We don't care about the house but losing our land. Can we lose it? How do we protect our property?