My name is Bill, I was invited here to meet others and share. I am a 45yo caregiver for my 81yo Mother that has Alzheimer's and my 85 yo Aunt that has Arthritis and other health issues. The three of us are in the same home and we live in the Mountains of California near Lake Tahoe.
I have a hard time with my "Acquired" job. My sleeping is normally done in a chair between chasing the estrogen queens needs. It is never ending around here, 24/7 I never know what is next.
I have Mom on waiting list at different facilities but there is no date in sight right now. I have a sister but she doesn't get involved too much. More like 10 minute visits and a lot of no-call no-shows.
I feel I am struggling every moment of my life just to keep anything in what we refer to as order. My daily story's can make a great comic book but I will spare you details right now as I just want to meet others that deal with life with Alzheimer's.
I question everything I do, did I say the right thing, did I do the right thing, how can I do it better, why did i say or do that. It goes on and on.
I need to get things ready for the day, Just wanted to stop by and "break the Ice".
Thanks for the invite Carol.
I own a home care agency in Scottsdale, AZ, and have been in the industry since 1979. You really are in a tough spot and should reach out for some help. I did a brief google search on California Home Care and found the states office for state paid home care which includes personal care, ie. bathing, meal prep and light housekeeping. Here in Arizona our state run home care program is very large and run by ACHSS which would be Medicaid in your State. If either or both of your ladies qualify it will take a load off your shoulders. You can actually print off the application from their site and get a feel for whether they qualify. If they don't and they have financial resources it is time for you to go to an agency like mine and get some help. If they don't have the finances to pay for help call the Hospice Organization in your area. Many people think of Hospice as only being in the business of dealing with "end of life" issues. Things have changed, their care is free and they can be a wonderful resource and support system. Bill, I have seen a lot over the years but you really need to take care of yourself. I have seen situations where the care giver becomes abusive, distraught, depressed and ill. Don't just suffer alone there, call for help!
If I can provide any additional information please don't hesitate to contact me.
You have come to the right place, we are all dealing with practically the same issues just in different development stages. some of us are older some have kids and I am so glad that mine is grown. Don't know if I could do a teenager and mother at the same time. We all doubt ourselves, have unanswered questions, my feeling is if we do the best we can without cracking which sometimes I do, in a loving manner it will be okay, after a while it will be all over with. Welcome and visit frequently