I've read a lot of questions on this forum asking how to deal with a LO who can no longer live alone but doesn't want to move or accept caregivers into his/her home, and I wonder what my reaction will be.
I'm only 53, but I remember my mom being 53 like it was yesterday. She's 80 now and in advanced stages of AD. The 53 yr-old me is thrilled at the prospect of living at any of the fabulous IL or AL facilities I've visited for my mom, but what about 80 yr-old me? Will I become stubborn and self-centered? Will I reject all attempts to help me be safe and cared for if it impacts my feeling of self worth? The answer is probably "yes" to both questions.
Watching my mom's decline has impacted my perspective, and I don't want my family to wonder later on if they're doing the right thing (even if 80 yr-old me is screaming at them), so I've started talking about it with my wife and two boys (18 & 19).
Has anyone else had a change in perspective after caring for a LO?