Is it common to experience intense grief when a parent has advanced dementia?
I thought I was dealing with my mother's advancing dementia as well as could be expected. But this Christmas for the first time she was not at home (she is now in a nursing home) and it seemed to trigger the realization that the holidays as I have known them are over. And I have also found myself experiencing deep grief because the mother I knew is not here anymore. She is alive, but the woman I knew is gone, and the realization feels unbearable.