Every time I try to find an answer to my mother’s problems she just complains. How do I get her to listen to me and not get frustrated with me anymore?
My mom still lives at home alone right now. I check on her daily, set out her meds, buy her groceries, take her to appointments etc. As I stated in another thread I don't know if she is just dementia or alzheimers but her memory is getting worse even though she is taking meds for alzheimers.
The problem with mom is that she still is pretty physically fit but she just forgets everything and has very little sense of direction. Therefore she can't drive and she is bored.
Another problem mom has is that even though she has some options she won't really help herself. Like there is a senior organization where she could take a bus and go for lunch or an activity but she won't.
When mom complains I try to find an answer or fix the problem but it seems that no matter what I do she is UNHAPPY. My mom is a huge pessimist and if you give her what she wants, she no longer wants it anymore!
Example: She lived in her house (1800 Sq ft) but stayed in a bedroom of about 100 ft and really only used that room and the bathroom. She constantly complained of how bored and lonely she was and complained it was to hot to go outdoors etc. She complained that she had no friends and no close neighbors. Her utilities were out of sight!
Soooo I asked her 20 times if she wanted to go to a small efficiency appt in a senior community, she would have less house to care for, less utilities, close to possible friends etc, and that we could sell her house for her future upkeep.
She said yes several times and that she was looking forward to it.
Now that I worked my butt to death making this happen, she has complained since the 2nd week with the exact same complaints and WISHES she could just go home!
HELP ME LORD- GIVE ME STRENGTH AND PATIENCE!