Relief for elder parent and getting my life back from burnout.
I have had my mother living on my property for the last 15 yrs + and before that growing up she was abusive and demanding my attention all of the time. She(will be 64 in july) has a lot of health issues and has visiting nurses coming to her house a few hours per a day but she also demands us to do things for her no matter what I have to do. I have gotten to the point that I don't leave my house except to go to work. I can't visit with my kids (age 30 & 23) & grandkids in my own house without her demanding that they visit her too. I have went through phases of her attacking my oldest child a few years ago and having to pull her off of her to accusing my youngest of stealing from her. I am at burn out and don't know what to do. If i suggest to move her camper off of my property she starts ranting and raving that she may as well be dead because we don't want her around and will not let us reason with her. She lives in a camper beside my house and sees everything we do. I am feeling like my life is over even though she has caregivers it is not getting me any relief to spend with my family. She even demands that she needs something to be worked on every time they visit.I am at the point that I don't want to be home anymore. If her care givers don't get the right things she is constantly fussing about them and trying to get one or the other of them fired. I just need some advice as the best to do. I have notice that she does supposedly fall out of bed at night and has knots on her head or will get a black eye. She will not discuss going into a nursing home(she is on 24hr oxygen and still smokes). She is also giving out money and spending money like crazy and will not let up (maxed out 3 to 4 credit cards that i know of and is talking about buying a used car)I have been told by her doctor that she is not supposed to be driving at all. She only wants certain nurses to come more hours which they are not doing at this time.