Mom seems normal to all but we know better! She is turning people against us!
My mother has several things going on: Delusional parasitosis, parkinson's (beginning), and dementia. However!!! She is very lucid MOST of the time, and has convinced people that she is not being taken care of and that we ignore and neglect her. True! We don't do as she expects, but she is very well taken care of. She has fired all of her help or they refuse to come in because of all of her dogs. She accusses all of us of stealing, and has done so since I can remember, so the grandkids stay away unless my sister and I go with them to visit. We always find the missing items which she then states that we returned them while she was not looking. I live 200 miles away and can't go but every so often. My sister lives next door, but stays extremely busy running errands to doctors, hair, groceries, vets, etc. It's never ending. She tells people that we do not do things for her. They believe that nothing is wrong with her mentally, and that we are cruel and heartless kids. Now, a con-artist niece from the past, who has stolen from her before, has re-entered the picture and she is always telling us how much better this hoodlum treats her. We know why she has come back into the picture. To see what she can get. And, its working so far. We tried to warn mom, but no! We are wrong! She long-time friend has just said nasty and mean things about me and my sister, not understanding that mom is a different person whenever she is around. Mom is a saint in her eyes. I can remember mom threatening to kill us all, including herself, as kids, as she would drive the car around mountain curves because she was mad at not getting her way with dad. She also had affairs with the parish priest and men at work. I caught her. Dad caught her. But, she still denies everything, and who cares at this point... just making an example of her lying ways which are getting even worse. What can we do to protect ourselves against these lies, the con-artist niece, and false accussations? My sister lives on the land next to hers, and we are afraid that she will do something rash with the niece which will affect my sister's future. My sister is her full-time caregiver who gets nothing but complaints and criticism. Her will is not finished at this time and we are afraid that she is going to completely lose it before getting it finished. Thank you very much.