Help with mother-in-law
My mother-in-law is 82 years old and I take care of her 99% of the time. She was told a few weeks ago that she has severe dementia and now she doesn't eat and is always falling. I have been in the bedroom with her when she gets dressed and undressed for bed so I can help her. She wears depends to bed because she does have accidents at night, but won't wear them during the day, only pads. She is very dehydrated and I try and keep fluids in her, but she doesn't like to drink at all. She tells me that she wants to die all the time. And all I can do is say, "Look Ma, you have me and your son and 5 grandkids here that love you. Do you think we want to loss you?" But I am just so overwhelmed now adays that I don't have time for me anymore, it's all about her. If she's not happy, no one is happy. We have a Palliative Care interview Monday, but she always turns down help or pushes them away because she tells them she has me. What can I do? Please help.