71-year-old father makes up illnesses for pity...Help please!
I am beyond burned out! My mother passed away in January 2011. I have been dealing with my father since then and I don’t know how much more I can handle. He acts like he is dying when there isn’t anything wrong with him. First he said that he had COPD and struggled to breath. Veterans Affairs paid for oxygen therapy to be put in his house until a Respirology & Internal Medicine doctor did the right test to find out that his lungs are healthy. He was telling people that he possibly hand lung cancer and when I found that out I told him to stop lying and making up diseases he didn’t have. He said he had a bad heart and that his heart hung lower than the average person which once again wasn’t true. He has sleep apnea and Post traumatic stress syndrome from being in the military for six years 1963-1969. He’s gone around telling people that he has diseased skin from the mustard gas that was sprayed on him. Once again he doesn’t have any medical problems from mustard gas. He has sensitive skin to certain products like perfumed shampoo’s, soaps, lotions etc. That’s not from being in the military. He has lied about his time in the military telling people that he had to deal with the enemy face to face and that he had to take bodies off of meat hooks etc. He did peace keeping duty in Cyprus for the Canadian Army that’s it! He lies 24/7 and when I approached him about all his lying he just became angry and distant. I tried talking to his psychiatrist and she has fallen for his bull. She wrote me a note telling me that my father was her patient and she would deal with him her way. He’s in the hospital right now because he has pneumonia and he is hamming it up like he is dying. My sibling said she watched the nurses roll their eyes. I tried giving him attention. I go on morning walks with him. I’ve tried to get him into social programs but he just won’t do it. Then he complains that he’s bored and lonely. He really can’t stand my sibling because of the problems my sibling has caused in the family. My sibling just dumps everything on me anyway. I’m disabled and really do have diseases which has caused me to have 19 major operations with the removal of several organs. I don’t act like I’m dying I keep pushing forward. Can anybody suggest some guidance for me? Thank you ~Tina~