Well were out here in the middle of nowhere in the Midwest. I am now "taking care" of my Mom but she does very thing, sorta.
First I should say I helped with my grandparents diabetes, loss of libs, kidney failure. I took care of my dad who required dialysis, advanced wound care, and was gone 4 days a week doing all of that. My mom has retired after over 50 years of work. We farm and that has allowed me the time I've had. Here is the developing rub. The people who used to run the programs and clinics have retired, and now we have young people who want to do nothing....and if your over 70 are old.
My mom has worked all of her life, and didn't have time to socialize.....in this area it was looked down upon working in town, the local senior services are laughable (but on our property tax)...only open 3 hours per day....no organized activities...they have senior meals....if you can call them that...a tablespoon of this and that.....no special diets (she is diabetic)....and still $3.
Transport...in town only....to the only grocery store in town and a few other places.....no transport to bigger town for shopping. Yes transport to bigger town for medical but 1 day per week.....first come first served.
The other support should be the church's...But a joke...all are clannish...if you go to a church you should only talk and fellowship with your own church......we have been In this community for years.....and never invited to attend church.....say what you will about the jahovia witness, but at least they get out and talk to people....where are the rest of ya?
At any rate....due to all of this she is pulling into a shell....she doesn't watch her diet, watchdog TV...sleeps quite a bit,
having bladder problems....and doesn't even go outside...she has put on weight and can't walk far. Our new know it all doctors say....oh at your age you deserve to rest....then make out common rx.....and foul it up and don't follow up on care....I wanted a sleep study...they didn't think it was needed....this is just not one MD...but the whole practice.
She is turning into a mess......going from going....to not moving and nobody willing to help or give a $%#!. Even her so called
friends even contact her since last year she was doing things at the farm and they thought it just terrible....doing that at her age....sell some of it and run with us.....only problem is what those "old heifers", Don't realize, you'll loose 1/3 to capital
gains plus that is where she gets part of her income.
Ok...what to do........I can't stand watching her turn into a pile of jello. She deserves better after all the work she has done....
But all these &*$# twits around don't give a %&$#.