I wrote on these forms a few weeks ago. Detailing my mother's problems and how I've been taking care of her. I'm 23 and she's 51. I've been trying to find a place that will take her insurance (medicaid) and someone her age. She's has a case for disability right now, but that won't go to court until sometime around august. I've been trying to get a second opinion about what's wrong with her. I, a psychiatrist, and a therapist all think it's Frontal lobe dementia, but I'm still waiting on the referral for her to see the new neurologist and a moment doctor (both don't take her insurance unless she has been referred and I don't have the hundreds it would be to get a consultation).
She is incontinent, but can still: shower, dress and take care of her self. I do any of the cooking that involves the stove or oven (mainly because she gets side tracked and doesn't hear the timer go off and then it burns). When I'm away she uses the microwave meals and none cooking foods.
She's a vegetarian as well.
She does need some level of supervision. Someone checking in on her every few hours. I like the places that have activities and outing, as well as meals made for the people, but I don't know if a place like that would take her with her age and no affirmative diagnoses of dementia.
I don't know where to look. I found one place, but they haven't returned my email or phone call, so I'm guessing they either don't take her insurance or someone her age.
I don't know if I can make it to August. Her and i haven't gotten along since I was 6. Our personalities clash and all she does is annoy me. Her ex partner is kind enough to take her one weekend out of the month, so that she can do laundry and see her dogs, but I don't know how much longer they will take her.
I miss living alone and the thought of her coming back tomorrow makes me want to cry.
I also don't want to come back home when I go visit my dad and step-mom on weekends (once or twice a month). Though, it's getting to the point I don't think I can leave her home alone for much longer. She won't use the oven or anything like that. I make sure there's no food she can cook in the oven or on the stove when I leave. She's not the type that wanders either, but I've started locking my bedroom door, so she doesn't snoop, and I've discovered this weekend that I will have to hide the vacuum in there as well. There was a cat toy (the kind with a long rod and a furry tail like thing) stuck in the hose and the cylinder when I went to use it yesterday. I'm sure she's going to tell me she didn't do it and blame it on ghosts or angels (her excuse for everything)....
Sorry, I guess I needed to rant.
What type of home does she need? Does anyone know?