We recently had my MIL moved from IL to AL due to increased dementia. Her physical health is fairly good, but her short-term-memory is "for sh*t", as in she remembers nothing beyond 5 minutes. My husband talked to her yesterday and she asked him to call his father to tell her where she is. His father has been gone for over 11 years. He calmly stated that dad had been deceased for quite some time, which didn't upset her, but it also didn't change her request. How do we answer her? Is it better to just say, "ok, mom, we'll let dad know" or should we be gently reminding her that he hasn't been with us for quite some time? I've posted on the AL board that this transition hasn't gone smoothly, in part, because we live 7 hours away. I don't want to add to her anxiety by saying the wrong thing. Any advice?