My MIL is in good physical health. She takes some maintenance meds. Low level diabetic and can control sugar with diet. Had a pacemaker put in last year . She refuses to do any exercise to help her balance, strength and endurance. She will eat poorly if I do not monitor her slightly. The be in a fret because her blood sugar is slightly elevated. I have taken over the finances because she has made several hundreds of dollars in mistakes as well have almost have some utilities cut off due to lack of payment. She lost some bills, etc. I suppose the hardest thing is her depression and self involvement. Last week my husband (her son) broke his ankle severely to require surgery. He will be off his feet for 3 months. One Christmas Eve we usually have 6-8 guests over for heavy hors'dourves and a big roast beef dinner with all the trimmings. Yesterday I suggested maybe we scale back the event to maybe just the hors'dourves or just the dinner. You would have thought I committed a crime.She is pouting, making statements like "do whatever you want" , maybe it will be better that I am just gone sooner than later. All the while asking what can I do, I am so grateful you are here, I am sorry you have to take care of everything. I am so confused and I have no idea which part of what she says is real. I would never have believed it but I am beginning to think maybe her diminished mental capacity is more manipulation than the beginning stages of dementia.