Hired a family friend to care of my 90 yr old mom. She feeds her breakfast and lunch, microwave meals mostly, sits with her and watches TV mostly, like a day sitter. Mom cannot clean or cook so she lives with me. I work. Aide is there during the day. She does mom's laundry and gives her a weekly bath but doesn't do much else. Doesn't want to clean up after mom when she makes a mess in the bathroom. Been balking at laundering the stinky towels my mom uses to wash up. Can't seem to get laundry completely done in a day. Doesn't do vacuuming or dish washing. We pay the aide $18/hr by cash and check. I don't think she is claiming taxes and her pay is slightly less than an agency. Mom doesn't have a lot of cash. I've been told by mom that aide is sleeping during the day. Not sure if we should get someone more professional and don't know what they should be doing for mom.