So what I was wondering... I pay a friend $18.00 an hour to be here for respite for me. Granted she's good with mom and they get along well. She bathes her, dresses her, helps her to the chairside commode wipes her and waits on her hand and foot. Mom's supposed to be walking every two hours to help regain strength in her legs. Therapists reiterated this today with us. Also I feel mom's capable of wiping her own self! Anyway I'm seeing mom sleeping most of the day while I'm paying good money for someone to watch her SLEEP? I'm getting fed up. Yes the help does housework too couldn't ask for a better helper, just can't see continuing this farse.