My 82 year old MIL will have her first overnight stay in an assisted living facility as a trial run to see how she tolerates it. She is currently going to Adult Daycare 3 days a week for 4 hours in the evening and seems to tolerate it well for the most part. They keep her busy which is good.
Personality wise, she is very co-dependent, clingy, mostly miserable personality, and she's just grumpy all the time. Not to mention manipulative.
But when she's in the throws of a spell of dementia, she's mostly clingy, confused, or just asks questions as if they are normal questions, and we play along.
What sort of things did you tell your loved one in order for them to be somewhat receptive to sleeping over their first night?
Usually when we drop her off to daycare, we tell her "You're going to a party", or "visiting a friend", or "going to a wedding/baby shower" and she's none the wiser. It gets her to stay and she ends up having a good time!
I just don't know what to tell my husband to say to her when she ends up staying over. Do you say things like "We are going on an overnight trip? We are going to a hotel?" - our concern is that she will look for one of us and she will know right away she's in a strange place and won't want to stay there.
Any advice would be really appreciated.