My 92 yr old mom is ready for assisted living one day, and a few days later she doesn’t want to leave her home. We have been having little conversations and little by little I’m working hard to convince her that it’s for her safety and comfort. She feels like she is living in a jail cell now at home. She’s very weak and tired but all else is good.
I have adult siblings that want her to stay home but they aren’t there to even call once a week let alone visit her. She will be much happier and active with others around her.
I am putting together a plan from A to Z of the different steps we must go thru starting with educating her on what assisted living is etc. so far I’ve done lots of research on the internet and have toured several facilities. It’s like she needs a coach or advisor to help her through this journey. I have the power of attorney and she trusts me but she doesn’t get it. I’m not the expert and have no experience in this and she’s afraid of making the wrong choices.
Right now I can be proactive and in control of the situation but if I have to be reactive because she fell and is broken then it’s the hospital then rehab and then some nursing home I haven’t even checked out. So far I have POA and she has a will and DNR order and funeral arrangements are paid. I have to sell her house once she leaves and make sure bills are paid etc. no matter what, she will be in a facility very close to me so I can be her advocate.
A plan written out showing timelines between Sep and November is what I’m trying to put together and any help is appreciated. Are there coaches for the seniors to help them on this journey?