My mom passed away from dementia on 1/21/19, after suffering for about 4 years. She was living in a nursing home. Before anything transpired, I had made the decision to place her on Hospice, because I had read so many wonderful things and so many people saying that they wished their loved one was able to benefit sooner than their final days. On another note, I had read about people's loved ones passing away soon after being placed on Hospice, instead of lasting many more months as expected. I thought that wouldn't happen to my mom and that was only for other people.
On 1/19, I received a call from Hospice to come up to the nursing home because Mom was put on oxygen because her O2 level had suddenly dropped to 50 during breakfast. When I arrived, I asked if she was dying and was told yes and that she was in the "pre-active" state. I called everyone and my siblings and Mom's friends came. Her O2 level went up and down until the nurse said that the oxygen wasn't helping, so we removed it and waited.
This was not peaceful for her. She seemed to struggle with the whole process and it's hard to forget.
Did me placing her on Hopsice speed up her death? If not, would being off of Hospice have made a difference in her care? Was this just her body shutting down and would have happened regardless? I feel like I did this to her by placing her on Hospice.