My mom has multiple medical conditions, all related to untreated diabetes, severe neuropathy, vision decline, congestive heart failure and severe kidney failure. She has dialysis three times a week. She moved in with us about 5 weeks ago after falling three times in a week. She's much more affected than we realized.
I learned that many people with kidney failure had high blood pressure. High blood pressure can cause damage to nerve endings in the brain. For a long while, the brain re-routes things so that that damage isn't noticed. However after long enough there is so much damage that the brain cannot re-route any longer and that can lead to confusion, memory issues and a loss of cognitive skills. My mom is experiencing this. She cannot remember about 40% of what goes on around her. She has also lost the ability to problem solve. If she tries to do something the way she expects it should work, and it doesn't work, she keeps repeating the same solution and of course it doesn't work. Very sad to see in a woman who was always sharp as a tack. Feels like it came on quick, but who knows? maybe it was slower and we couldn't tell any more.
I know that this is common and I also know it may worsen. There is a race between her cognition and her physical decline. They're very connected, so if one seems worse, the other follows soon after. She has good days and bad.
What have you found to help so that it isn't so shocking to her when she realizes she can't remember? Or can't resolve a problem? I'm looking for tips to help her save face a bit.