As above, my father is currently in an AL apartment. He is wheelchair bound, incontinent, no strength in his legs - he also has vascular dementia, good days and bad days. He might not know ‘names’ but he knows ‘who’ people are (including family). He can ‘showtime’ with the best of them - but is unable to operate his phone, TV/remote, etc., spends most of his day in front of the fireplace in the lobby, snoozing, does not participate in ANY activities. I guess my question is, is he in the right place? This AL also has a MC section.
So talk to them today about getting him moved to memory care where he belongs.
Dad sounds a bit above ALF care, but--and however--if he's a peaceable guy who sits and watches the lobby TV, the fireplace, the companions in facility, and just watching the world go by, he may have more time in ALF.
In my brother's facility it was fine line that often needed drawing; they were very cognizant of the fact that a bump up in dollars often cannot be done. Neither, however, could fellow residents be dealing with someone who may wander, become confused and et.
Good luck.