I have been taking care of my gramaw for three years now. I am not asking this because I think I deserve a check but but because of medicare.
Lil history: I am her caregiver but not ... can not remember the word. I am not in charge of her finances. My uncle, who lives over two hours away is. I write checks when I need them. She lived with my mama till my mama died of cancer. Mama took everything from her. Her home and jewlery. Her bank account was completely empty. Her freedom, by forcing her to stay in her bedroom. She even took her pain pills and sold them and gave her Tylenol p.m.s instead.
Gramaw wears junk jewlery but is happy because the dementia doesn't remember the difference. She is living alone but in my yard with almost constant supervision.so, independence re established. I have painstakingly and frugally built her account up to a couple thousand. Had almost three but spent some last month on things she needed.
My uncle wil get her money when she dies and that really rankles my husband because we pay for a lot of stuff just because it gets grabbed with our stuff. Gramaw has told the bank she wants me on her account and as the person who gets her money when she dies but my uncle would have to come and it just don't mean enough to me. And if anyone ever looked at her spending record it would tell you clearly, that we dont take from her. My fear is this, if I don't show that my gramaw is making money, then my uncle might take her from me and put her in a nursing home. Irrational? Maybe. But really scared to take the chance.