A friend and I have each been sorting through photos/paperwork for extended family members. We have each come across items that neither of us are certain what to do with. In some regards, we feel it is not our place to decide to discard, but we also don't know if it would be hurtful for the person involved to receive them should they be mailed. Item #1 - Over 40 years ago four cousins were made wards of the state and were placed with three family members. They did not return to their parents and are all considered siblings with the families they were placed with. Should the related court records be discarded or mailed to one of them? Item #2 - As part of a substance abuse intravention almost twenty years ago family members wrote letters. The individual involved has be doing well for since then. First reaction is to discard. the letters. Person involved may or may not have ever read them. Item #3 - Over forty-five years ago a family placed a child up for adoption. One time this adult child got in touch with the biological parent and grandparent, both now deceased. The meeting went well, but there was not any further communication. Adult child and adult half siblings have not ever initiated contact with each other. Can the family member who has photographs of the child (as a child) discard them. And the last item #4 - About 70 years ago there was a suicide. A family member several generations removed has been doing research and asking questions about the death. Should family member who has notes/letter written by the person who died release them? Family histories can get complicated and it is hard to know the right or best thing to do sometimes. Neither my friend or I want to nor do we feel it is our place to hold on to the items in question. We are left with the decision to return them (if possible) to the person or next of kin involved or have a respectful burning of the papers.