She's too weak to walk with her walker or stand so I can help her toilet but if she's left on her own she gets up and out the door? WTheck? "I'm just so tired." On and on and on and on - anytime I need her to eat or transfer from wheelchair to recliner or transfer to toilet or stand and brush her teeth or ANYTHING. Now if I have to take her somewhere, doctor, church, store, cemetery (I swear if I told her we were going someplace to be drawn and quartered) she can stand and practically run down the hall. If she is hanging on to a grab bar and I want her to sit down in the wheelchair because we are both falling towards the tub she can hold us BOTH up by the grip of one, trembling, 87 year old hand. She gets in a cycle of self-pity, crying and whining about fillintheblank and it just shatters everyone around her, but if it is just us and I tell her to can it 'cuz I'm not buying it she brightens right up and proceeds to call me all 13 words you can't say on television. Is it just me? Is she capable of tailoring her responses for JUST ME? The doc says it's the disease, she just doesn't know what she's doing. I am having a VERY hard time buying that as she is pi-ti-ful for everyone (and they all buy it and feel awful for her and pet and try to console) but I have found she is IN-consolable when she is like that. So I make her mad and she snaps right out of it and fires up at me and then she is good for a while. What gives? Oh, she's 87, about an early 6 on the 1 to 7 scale for Alzheimer's, she still knows who we all are, I am her daughter-in-law (friends and prayer partners for 30 years) and primary caregiver.