My 77 year old mom has been living with us for the past 4 years. She had a stroke in 2014 and can't drive or really manage her finances, so I do both those things for her. The past six weeks she's had two episodes that I don't know how to deal with. First, she didn't want to eat at all on a Sunday and Monday I realized that there was quite a stench coming out of her bedroom. I went in to find that she was laying naked from the waist down on her bed, poop on her, her bed, floor and a massive amount of it on the chair she uses to watch TV. I told her if she didn't get up and into the bathroom to clean up, I'd have to call 911, I finally got her in there, although I had to do the cleaning up of her. My husband came home and helped me - between her bathroom and bedroom, we spend about 4 hours cleaning. She was too weak to do anything. We talked to her several days later, when she was feeling better, and told her we need her to let us know when there is a problem. Don't just sit there or lay there, crapping, for who knows how long. Let us know and we can help! When we mentioned that the mess in both bedroom and bathroom was horrific, she said she planned to clean up the mess - there was no way she could have done it very well. She can't smell (that sense has been gone for a while because of a car accident) so she couldn't tell what she was really subjecting us to. Well...
Weekend before last, she did it again. This time she stayed in the bathroom (I think because of our conversation previously) and apparently her legs started bothering her, so she got on the floor and just laid there for nearly 8 hours. She refused any offers I made of helping her and just wanted to lay there, half naked, on the floor. I was finally able to get her up and get her cleaned and into bed... but OMG, what a mess.
She does NOT want to go to a doctor to find out what is going on. Now that she's feeling better, she says that she's never had this kind of thing happen before. She does usually take care of herself, keep her bedroom and bathroom neat and makes her own lunch. She's resumed that now. I'm concerned this will happen again. She's strong willed, stubborn and getting more difficult to deal with when she's sick.
I want her to go to a doctor - I don't want to have to deal with her crapping all over the place (the memories of her bedroom the first time are just horrific). Any suggestions?