I have my dad, who is 90, living with me (his daughter) in an in-law suite attached to my kitchen. He has been diagnosed with dementia over 7 years ago and has lived with me all that time. I took care of my mom with other issues for part of the 7 years until she passed on peacefully. My struggle with my dad is he has a strong personality which apparently comes with his narcissistic issues and now with his dementia worsening it is difficult to provide help that he needs. He seems to want help so I humbly offer it and rather than moving on he instead figures out something in my helping him that was wrong and makes sure to point it out to me. Example: He was struggling with balancing his checkbook. I offered to review it and discovered some mistakes which I corrected. I returned everything to him sharing the mistake I found but adding that was an easy thing to miss. (I try to soften these things as he really believes he doesn't make mistakes) He returned to tell me hours later telling me that I made a mistake and pointed out some insignificant thing. It's the narcissism that makes him competitive and needing to come out on top. I try to soften my help and not be in his face which sometimes means I will provide help that he is unaware of. Currently I'm paying all his bills that come through the mail while explaining to him they are automatically being paid through his checking account (I am co-owner of his checking acct). He provides for me all the figures on his day to day spending at the end of each month and I put it in a spread sheet to help him feel "in charge" and also allow me to see what is going on with his spending. I speak with my brother often but he lives in Virginia while I am in Pennsylvania and the daily stuff is mine to deal with. Just wondering if anyone else is struggling with a parent with the two issues of dementia and narcissism and how you are dealing with it?