Quick synopsis: stepdad passed away late April from CHF, have been sole caregiver of Mom who has dementia since then. Moved her back home several states away from their home. I originally thought I could care for her at home with caregivers, but within two weeks realized that I was asking my hubby and kids to sacrifice too much, it's one thing for me to give up most of my former life, but not right for me to expect them to do it. So, I have been secretly getting a room ready for my mother at a very nice memory care only facility that is five minutes up the road. At the end of this week, we fly out of town to bury stepdad, and upon our return my Mom is to go straight to her room at the memory care, my stepmom was going to go with her and I was going to pretend to have a business trip. That was all planned back when Mom was being pissy and angry, but for almost three weeks now she's been quiet and agreeable, so I am rethinking not going with her. She will most likely be very unhappy, at least at first. She hated the AL place they had moved into previously, saying it was like a prison, and everyone there was so old! I'm wondering if going with her will reassure her, or just make it worse? What has been your experience???