My FIL is wheelchair bound and in an ALF, but comes to our house often. He's had incontinence for at least a year, but was able to stand to pee. Now he can no longer stand to transfer to the toilet at all. We've asked him to sit, but he no longer will point himself at the toilet bowl. He refuses and says he doesn't need to. He wears Depends, but lordy those things only work for light accidents, despite saying they're for "heavy" use. My question is this, what happens now? It's not like we can stand him up, pull down his pants, and get a urinal in place before he has an accident. He seldom knows he has to go to the bathroom before it's nearly too late. Also, he and my husband are both embarrassed by the entire thing. What do folks do with wheelchair bound folks when they come visit?