If he is violent, is bringing him home really such a good idea? Sundowning is when a person gets really confused in the afternoon and wants to go home usually. Just keep in mind, sometimes home isn't the home you think it should be. My grandma is convinced she lives across the street (it has a junky old trailer full of stuff in it as the owner uses it for storage). but according to my grandma she lives there. She has lived in this new house only a year but she has lived with me and my family for over 36 years. She hasn't lived alone in over 60 as before that she lived with my aunt and uncle until she got breast cancer so they moved across country. Then she lived with a family with two children still in her house never leaving so again didn't have to go down the street. So home might not be just to your home, it might be to some odd old distant place.
Violence and abusiveness can be caused by their frustration, can be caused by UTIs, or any number of reasons. I've been reading about some drugs that can help lessen the anger but probably doesn't stop it completely.
Is he in a care facility of some kind now? I'm guessing he is or you wouldn't be bringing him home. Why is he in the care facility? Are you planning to bring him home because in his sundown state he's asking to go home? Are they talking about kicking him out? What your reasons for planning to bring him home?
confusedwife, I know your heart is in the right place about wanting to bring hubby home, but this is your first rodeo when it comes to sundowning.... the nursing facility had been down this road thousands of time, so they know exactly what to do. I would highly recommend hubby stays there, and sees a doctor who can provide something to calm him down.
I'd do a lot of reading, research and have serious discussions with experts, before bringing home a person who is violent and abusive. It's quite risky for all involved, including the patient. I agree with others who suggest exploring options with his doctor. I'd ask for a geriatric psychiatric referral. I'd explore medications that could address his mental distress. They have helped my LO quite a bit.
Violence and abusiveness can be caused by their frustration, can be caused by UTIs, or any number of reasons. I've been reading about some drugs that can help lessen the anger but probably doesn't stop it completely.
Is he in a care facility of some kind now? I'm guessing he is or you wouldn't be bringing him home. Why is he in the care facility? Are you planning to bring him home because in his sundown state he's asking to go home? Are they talking about kicking him out? What your reasons for planning to bring him home?