I am primary caregiver for 97-year-old Mom with non-Alzheimer's dementia - fairly late stage. She lives with us in the Dallas area. I am also proud grandma to a cute little girl who will be 10 months old at Christmas. She lives in LA and her other set of grandparents in San Diego. I want to be there (and am invited) for her first Christmas! I can get coverage for Mom's care. And this would seem to be a no-brainer except for one thing - Mom's 98th birthday is Christmas Day. I have decided I will be going for my granddaughter's first Christmas. Missing that is a sacrifice I'm not willing to make, and having them come to us has been explored and cannot happen for a variety of reasons. So I'm asking for ideas on how I can make Mom's experience of the season the best possible so when I'm gone for a few days, she doesn't feel like we're ignoring her and her birthday. This is probably not as emotional a thing for her as it is for me. We considered taking her to my sister's, but the long trip is really stressful for her and whomever accompanies her. Probably no longer a good idea. She resists adult day care because of all the "old people" -- this week I took her to a concert at one of the nursing homes and watched her visibly withdraw as she looked at the vacant stares and wheelchair-bound folks and didn't even register the equal number of alert and healthy-seeming people. I'm not sure she even heard the music, and a concert is usually a real treat for her. So...I'm rambling. But creative ideas about Christmas would be so very much appreciated! Thanks to all of you (which is what "y'all" means here in Texas, btw).