My mother in law (65) who is poor with no savings, is diabetic, vision is going, and having problems walking long distances is going to need care soon. I would consider helping, but there is no way as I am 130, and she is over 300 lbs. I have been told medicare only covers nursing homes, not assisted living. The doctors most likely are not going to tell medicare she needs a nursing home in the near future, but she will be needing care from someone sooner than when she would be nursing home ready. My husband and I are medium income people with two teens still in the house dealing with teen auto ins, and college in their futures. We really can't afford to fund her assisted living as it would eat 2/3rds of our salary and there is no way I could assist her and support her weight in the bathroom. Any one have any ideas of possible solutions that we just are not thinking of?