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Example: Posting a checklist on the back of your door to review prior to leaving the house… keys, hat, wallet, sun glasses, phone.

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Routine.
As boring as it sounds doing the same thing every day will help. I think things become more of a muscle memory than a brain memory.
This includes getting up at the same time every day, going to bed at the same time.

Posting a checklist might help or not.
After a while you may not "see" it.
I have a funny story.
A few years ago I figured I would get all my papers ready to bring to the guy that did my taxes. I was prepared..I got this all done about 2 weeks before my appointment.
I went through all my bills, I broke everything down. I put everything I needed in an envelope and wrote TAXES on it in HUGE letters and stuck it on the door to the garage. The door is metal so I used a HUGE red magnet.
The day of my appointment I could not find that envelope, I looked everywhere for it. I had to call and postpone the appointment because I could not find the envelope.
I went to leave later that day and there it was...On the door to the garage, held fast to the door with a HUGE red magnet.
I had seen it so often in the week before the appointment that I no longer "saw" it.
So a check list might help for a little while it might not work as time goes on.

The thing that might help the most is accepting the limitations and working to avoid the stress that any disease can cause.
It may be that as you or the person you are caring for declines you have to change your schedule a bit and start getting ready to walk out the door 30 minutes earlier than you did a year ago or even 6 months ago.
Don't stress about the little stuff and realize that most of the stuff is little stuff.
Pick your battles. Does it really matter if mom doesn't take a shower today? Does it really matter if she wants to wear the yellow polka dot blouse with the orange plaid pants? (ya might not want to leave the house that day though🤣)
And if there is an Adult Day Program get your loved one involved in that. the routine of getting on the bus or van, going to a place where there are other people, activities can help keep a person engaged and active. Not to mention it gives both of you a break.
Know your limitations.
Know and accept what you can do, what you can't do and what you won't do.
Making the decision to place someone in any facility is difficult but know that it is because their care is more than what you can safely do at home.
Make medical decisions with your HEAD not your HEART.
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When my uncle was diagnosed with MCI he went to some classes put on by the Alzheimer's society that gave him coping strategies, you should check if there's anything like that available near you. Uncle fortunately never progressed to true dementia but the tips and techniques he learned, as well as meeting with others like himself, were very helpful.
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You can post a checklist on the back of their door but will they remember to even look at it? Even if they look at it, they might not be able to get through the whole list, or remember where they put the items, since it's the short-term memory that goes first.

Extending "independence" is not what would be happening. "Orbiting" in order to maintain the appearance of independence is what takes place. My Mom is 95 and lives next door to me. She has moderate dementia. I got her a special phone where I control everything from an app on my phone. It shows her a large text alert to "Put in hearing aids". She will look at it and not do it. Or it will say, "Battery low" and not plug it in. It texts it and also says it audibly. She still doesn't do it.

Once one's short-term memory goes, a lot goes away with it.

Are the memory hacks for you? Or someone else?
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Fawnby May 3, 2025
Excellent answer, Geaton. People think of dementia as ONLY memory loss, but it's also loss of executive function. Even if there are reminders, such as "brush teeth," they might not know the meaning of "brush" or "teeth" or be able to execute the task. My LO's toothbrush ended up in the toilet sometimes, probably because he associated a toilet brush with the toilet, was unable to differentiate between the two brushes, and no longer knew how to execute either tooth brushing or toilet cleaning.
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Early onset dementia is when a person is diagnosed at an early age, such as age 35 rather than 75. EARLY dementia is the first stages of dementia in an age group where dementia diagnosis isn't surprising, like 65 and up. They're different things. Independence for a 35-year-old has different expectations from independence for an elder who may have already lost a good bit of independence due to other issues by the time of diagnosis.

As for memory hacks, you can try. You can post signs, but by the time they need these reminders, they might not be able to read them, or they can't connect the word itself with the thing you're reminding them of. Like, "Take your phone" won't work if the patient thinks it's the TV remote. Or doesn't understand your words due to brain scramble. And you don't necessarily know yet what they don't know, plus it can change daily. One day they might think their shoe is a toilet, the next day it's a shoe.

I've taken care of 4 family dementia patients so far and haven't found memory prompts effective outside of the very very early stage when someone unacquainted with them doesn't notice their struggles. That stage usually passes fast.

When dementia walks in the door, independence soon walks out. And that's the unfortunate truth. Instead of spending time on memory hacks, you'd be better off investigating memory care facilities or trained home health professionals so you'll be ready with a plan.
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I see what you mean with your example.
So I would say a good phone, a good call devise for falls, and even perhaps considering getting the home safety checked for grab bars, raised seats, and perhaps a camera system monitored by family.

What is more difficult in all this is executive functioning.
My brother had early onset "probable Lewy's dementia" which was diagnosed by symptoms. He could have remained independent but for his not wanting to depend on others, and but for his poor balance and inability to drive in a town that really required that for shopping and etc. Executive functioning also a fear and he made me his POA/Trustee so I could handle bills and banking, allowing him a small allowance account I could monitor. Eventually the thought was that the balance was just too uncertain to risk staying alone, and he went into ALF.

Your question is a good one, but it is always a danger being alone once this diagnosis is in. Wishing you best of luck.
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