My husband has been in memory care for two months and over all, I am happy with the facility and he has adjusted very well. He has a history of agitation and is on Mirtazipine, Lexapro and Depakote (very low doses). He started the Depakote one month before moving to the facility and I think it made the move easier. I have not seen agitation since he's been there and I am amazed at how cooperative he has been. Two aides who care for him, mostly in the afternoon and evenings, have told me they have no problems with him. However, I've been told that he has been combative and actually hit some of the aides In the mornings when they are trying to get him up and dressed. He has limited mobility in one leg and needs assistance. I have felt pressured by the nursing staff to add or increase medications. It's mainly two district nurses who don't even know him well, and they just got a new DON two weeks ago so she doesn't know him either. Because I was afraid of someone getting hurt, I finally agreed to Zyprexa 5mg. It was prescribed by his doctor at the request of the facility. After two weeks they still had incidents and want to increase it. His doctor agreed to double the dosage of the Zyprexa and the Depakote. We get them by mail so he hasn't started the new dosage yet. The last few days he is doing so well and one of the aides who had trouble with him has told me he is doing so much better. He is alert, happy and cooperative. He is walking better and talking better. I got the meds in the mail today and I really don't want to make the change when he seems to be doing so well. The doctor said the increase should not be enough to make him groggy, because he is a big guy. I'm thinking about talking to the new DON tomorrow and ask if they still think he needs it. I suspect they think I am being too controlling but I do not feel they have given him and the aides enough time to adjust. Am I making too big a deal about this?