My husband and I invited my Mother to live with us 17 years ago, when my father unexpectedly died at a young age and left her financially unstable. She took what was available (very little) to live off of and the insurance money to build a small house. My brother, in turn, talked her into mortgaging the home, for a start up business for him, and it was a total loss. She was left with nowhere to live and no equity to draw on for living expenses.
We have housed, cared for and paid most of her bills for all these years, meanwhile my two siblings have gone from mediocre lives to quite successful ones, including much financial security.
My Mother has never stood up for me where they are concerned and this is no different. She makes excuses for their lack of assistance, and makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong for expecting it😊
We built a house soon after she moved in because she didn’t “like living in an apartment, it’s too crowded and noisy”, and we gave her the large master with the largest bathroom and closet. (And she still has the gall to complain to others about ‘living in one room with all of her stuff’) Meanwhile we have filed bankruptcy once already because the house was just too much for us financially.
I am just at my wits end and my husband and I, both, are suffering the mental and physical effects of all of this strain. If my siblings would only do the right thing and compensate or even ‘begin’ to help us now, it would go a long way in our recovery financially and health wise. When I have broached the subject with them, they always make excuses, and one has even accused me of trying to run a scam on her and her husband!
Any ideas or advice would be helpful. Thanks!