My mother has cancer and I work. She wants to have everything done for her. She will not clean up after her toileting or she drops her depends wherever she is. She does no cooking or very little. She sleeps in a reclining chair and does not bathe at all. When she wants to do something like going out to dinner she can walk out to the car (with walker) and walk into the restaurant. Then she says that she could not get to the toilet and when she drops a depend soaked in urine it is not her job to pick it up. She does not defecate in her depends so we know that she can get to the toilet for that.