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These compulsive activities are not easily fixed or changed. They often flip from one thing to another. Discuss with his MD. Sometimes a mild antidepressant works a bit to help.
Taking for granted you removed those items that could cause him financial harm, in what way is it problematic? Does his fixation interfere with bathing, eating, toileting and bedtime? If he is able to, take him out for air and walks and a change of environment. Places like zoos, parks, or watching a neighborhood ball game might be good distracting options. What did he do during his working life? Did he have a hobby? This information could help you determine what kind of "busy" work might be soothing for him. My husband was very handy. His dementia translated this need to use his hands to folding anything he could get his hands on. I bought 3 multi-packs of micofiber rags of different colors and prints. After he went to bed I unfolded and made a mess of them for the next day. This was his job. See if playing soothing music helps. Could you give him a satchel with many zippered or snap pockets? Into only one pocket place a small wrapped piece of chocolate once in a while, or an old useless key into another, or note paper, pencil, and so on, as long as you are sure that he won't swallow something he shouldn't. Maybe those rewarding discoveries will give him a satisfying sense of accomplishment for his efforts. It's just a harmless stage. Be aware, one day you may discover that this stage wasn't so bad.
If it keeps him calm ( and you have removed and replaced the important items ) sure.
I knew a woman who emptied her dresser and refolded everything every evening , and put it back in the drawers. It would upset her if someone tried to stop her . She was very calm while doing it .
If Dad is not calm, is upset , talk to the doctor about meds .
It may be fruitful to talk to his primary doctor about this and any other behaviors (like anger, agitation, paranoia). He may now be a candidate for meds that help him calm down and improve his mood.
I agree with others that you should now go through all his important and sensitive paperwork and remove it to either a location where he can't access it, or buy a small fireproof safe and keep it where he lives but you keep the key.
My Mom starting "hiding" papers (like the car title so I couldn't sell her car) and she thinks she's "organizing" paperwork but is just basically confused and screwing it all up. I took pictures of all of it but some things may require presenting the originals.
OCD behaviors are so very common in folks with dementia, so if it's not his wallet that he's fixated on it will be something else. I would just make sure that he doesn't have anything of too much value/importance in it in case he would misplace any of these items.
Allow? Why not? He might as well be fixated on that as anything else. Anyway, you can’t reason with someone who has dementia. No point in trying.
If you think he’s going to lose important items from his wallet, substitute expired credit cards, small denomination bills, a copy of his drivers license and little else. Safeguard his social security card, Medicare card, insurance cards, etc.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Does his fixation interfere with bathing, eating, toileting and bedtime?
If he is able to, take him out for air and walks and a change of environment. Places like zoos, parks, or watching a neighborhood ball game might be good distracting options.
What did he do during his working life? Did he have a hobby? This information could help you determine what kind of "busy" work might be soothing for him.
My husband was very handy. His dementia translated this need to use his hands to folding anything he could get his hands on. I bought 3 multi-packs of micofiber rags of different colors and prints. After he went to bed I unfolded and made a mess of them for the next day. This was his job.
See if playing soothing music helps.
Could you give him a satchel with many zippered or snap pockets? Into only one pocket place a small wrapped piece of chocolate once in a while, or an old useless key into another, or note paper, pencil, and so on, as long as you are sure that he won't swallow something he shouldn't. Maybe those rewarding discoveries will give him a satisfying sense of accomplishment for his efforts.
It's just a harmless stage.
Be aware, one day you may discover that this stage wasn't so bad.
I knew a woman who emptied her dresser and refolded everything every evening , and put it back in the drawers. It would upset her if someone tried to stop her . She was very calm while doing it .
If Dad is not calm, is upset , talk to the doctor about meds .
I agree with others that you should now go through all his important and sensitive paperwork and remove it to either a location where he can't access it, or buy a small fireproof safe and keep it where he lives but you keep the key.
My Mom starting "hiding" papers (like the car title so I couldn't sell her car) and she thinks she's "organizing" paperwork but is just basically confused and screwing it all up. I took pictures of all of it but some things may require presenting the originals.
I would just make sure that he doesn't have anything of too much value/importance in it in case he would misplace any of these items.
If you think he’s going to lose important items from his wallet, substitute expired credit cards, small denomination bills, a copy of his drivers license and little else. Safeguard his social security card, Medicare card, insurance cards, etc.