I need to find someone that can handle things when I need help.

I know a number of people who volunteer at the NJ Ombudsman office and they are assigned a few individuals to check in on each week. Many are under state guardianship. Some fiduciaries work the same way. Some people are in facilities, some are at home. The volunteers are volunteering because they WANT to help, but because they have to help. You have to research and ask around. You don't always know what you will get with this arrangement but in your case you do know what your will get with your brother.

I knew some people who worked for an elderly wealthy lady. She'd set up a fiduciary arrangement with her longtime bank. She was the sole survivor of her family, and a large trust supported her.

She had a full-time nurse, people who came to her home and managed her checkbook, and the bank even set up some of its retired female employees to come to visit her. They were probably paid something. Some read to her a few times a week because her vision was declining. I'm sure that all this required a great deal of money, but I met all of her helpers, and they were very nice and took an interest in her.

However, it shows that there are nice people who will go above and beyond! Yes, they were paid, but it went beyond that. They enjoyed her. Even though you might use a fiduciary agent who can't provide all of those things, there might be volunteers in your neighborhood who would drop in and read or chat to someone who doesn't have any relatives. Ask around and see what you can line up.

One more option other than those I mentioned below:
contact Certified Daily Money Manager (CDMM) who would be helping you with paying household bills, filling out applications and managing health insurance claim forms, etc. Contact secure.aadmm.com/find-a-dmm.

You can contact a Certified and Licensed Fiduciary to act for your best interests. This is who is appointed in court cases where there are either no families or families at was. I can give you contact for California if that's your State, but otherwise, check for them in your own state via google or other search engine or call an Elder Law Attorney and ask for a list of Fiduciaries in your state. Then begin the interview process to see how this will work if you have no friends who are close and wish to act for you.

Were I you, imperfect as it may be, I would ask my brother if he is interested in being your POA or not. If so, leave him your assets, and if not, tell him, you will be leaving them to your local animal shelter.

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