She lives a fair way away. We chat occasionally and happily on the phone, but when we meet (about once a year) she usually gets angry with me over nothing. This last time at a family ashes scattering, she hit me on the head very hard because ‘I touched her hair’. No apology, and I have no memory of this annoying her previously. This is the first time I’ve realised that it’s meetings, not telephone talking, that causes problems. Any ideas about what is going on? I’m having a hard time working out whether to try to keep a relationship or not, or how for that matter.