My elderly mother recently moved into our home. We've hired her a private home health aide/companion because my husband and I both work full time, plus we have small children with busy schedules in the house. I'm conflicted on what to do re: my mother's shopping habits with the aide. Mom LOVES to grocery shop. On Monday, mom & the aide came home with five different prepared meals from the store. Today was the 3rd day I've failed to get her to eat any of that food. She doesn't like it & the aide commented that she thinks mom bought this food for us not her. I also noticed a few cases of water stacked up in the corner of mom's room. When I asked about that, the aide said that mom doesn't like using the water dispenser on the outside of the fridge so she bought water too. As I was dumping the prepared meals in the trash tonight & thinking about the free filtered water coming out of the fridge, I couldn't help but be frustrated with the waste of mom's money at the grocery store. As I'm thinking this over, I look over on the counter and in the two days (and two trips to the grocery store) that mom has spent with the home health aide, they've also purchased THIRTEEN bananas. WTF? As a side note, now that mom is living with us we're starting to strongly suspect that she has undiagnosed dementia. She is not able to retain new information and her short term memory is frighteningly nonexistent. I've shown her where the meat drawer is in the fridge at least 4-5 times a day and she just can't remember. So my dilemma...do I allow mom to make these shopping trips that she clearly enjoys even though she's wasting money on food that I'm literally throwing out days later or do I tell the home health aide that we need to discuss what they're going shopping for in advance? Part of the problem is also that I have a small kitchen and having to constantly make room for food that's not even eaten in the end is really pi$$ing me off.