Every time I go to visit my mother she constantly asks why my father never visits. He's been gone 3 years and we put her in a home a year ago. She has moderate Alzheimer's and of course constantly forgets. We've mentioned to her that he's passed, she gets upset and cries, and we don't know whether to continue to keep telling her that or not? My mom is still together for the most part she has good and bad days like everyone else but she also knows that my dad would come to visit if he could. She gets very frustrated and upset when we lie to her and tell her that he's at work or he's at home sleeping or doing errands. It's so frustrating for my sister and I we really don't know how to handle it. The staff where my mother is at constantly tells us to lie to her and not to tell her that our father has passed, however it's so upsetting because she knows in her heart that he would come and visit there's nothing that would ever stop him from visiting her. She thinks she's in the hospital and can't remember why she's there, and constantly asks to come home or to have my dad come and pick her up after work. So I'm at a loss I don't know really how to handle it. My sis can visit her more frequently because she has a flexible job whereas I do not. So my sister gets the brunt of a lot of it most of the time I should say and tells me that mom always asks about him and we just really don't know how to handle like I said so if anybody has any ideas that would help with this would greatly be appreciated. As I've said we've tried the lying it doesn't work she gets upset and cries because she knows. And of course when we tell her that he's passed she gets upset and cries and acts like she didn't know about it or nobody told her and then we have to go over every single. So again I'm really just so lost on how to handle it we don't want to upset her as much as we possibly can. I kind of thought maybe leaving a prayer card of his from his funeral with her on one of my dad's pictures to maybe remind her that he's passed, I don't really know if that would help or hurt? Opinions, comments anything that could help would really be appreciated please!