Three years ago, I volunteered to take care of my mother in law who was diagnosed with terminal cancer. We got her moved in and was told she had weeks, maybe months to live, she was put on hospice care.....well, a miracle happened and she's still with us at 93 and is cancer free (without treatment)! She now has dementia and my husband and I are not handling her behavior well.
My biggest frustration at this point is I can't keep her from doing certain things, like leave the dishwasher alone. She opens it when it's running, she loads dirty dishes in with clean or will put the dirty dishes up thinking they are clean.
It grosses me out and drives my bonkers mental stress to the max ( I'm type A and controlling)! She also will at times "wash" dishes by hand without soap!
What would you do to remedy this? I made a sign for our dishwasher to indicate clean/dirty, she says she doesn't think to look at that though....how could she miss it though. I often feel she does things that irritates me on purpose! She is very passive aggressive, sneaky, quite and at times malitious.