My Brother desperately wants Mom out of the NH and back here with me asap. He is asking me how much time I need to recuperate, how much help I'm going to need from nurses or aids, how much more can he and the rest of the family do. He wants the dog home with Mom. He's got my head swimming.
I need a full month off, until my follow up visit with cardiologist on 10/31.
I need each sibling to call her more often.
I need each of them to take her for a minimum of 2-4 hours a week for dinner or lunch.
I have no idea of what I need from nurses and/or aids. What would be the average hours. What do they do? I don't want to give up her care giving, I just want help.
To refresh, Mom has dementia is mostly wheelchair bound, diabetes, copd, very hard of hearing and could lose her sight at any time. She has put the kabbash on outside help, all this time , but just like taking her car away, it's time to stop letting a demented woman making the important decisions.
Any experience from Professionals, to those who have non-live in care givers.....I need a clue as to how much I need and what to expect.