Anyone familiar with elder care laws in Hawaii?
My Mother has been diagnosed with Dementia. She is in her 80's and if there are stages (1-10) she is about a 4 or 5. She still drives and lives alone as 3 of us live in the Mainland.
She has a sizable Trust that my 2 siblings control and have recently added themselves to be Co-Trustees. They are very concern that I may influence my Mother and try to take her money. Or so they say...
I have stayed away from my family (including my Mother) for about 5 years-needed a break from their means.
My Mother, about three years ago started begging and bagering my friends and Cousin to get in touch with me as she wanted to see me. She told them no one -including my siblings-had any idea where I was even though have had the same email address and friends (that my sibling they knew) for the past 20 years...
My Cousin finally contacted me and said she was at her wits end because my 2 siblings were not returning my Mother's calls and they were now ignoring her calls to help my Mother.
I finally relented-went to Hawaii to see what was going on. My Mother's memory is very short-termed as she constantly asked the same questions and at one point did not recognize me. I spoke to her Doctor who said she suffered from Dementia.
That is when I found out about her Trust and the changes (are in my 2 siblings favor) that were made. According to my Mother who English is her 2nd language, she was told by my siblings to sign it.
Of course there is much more to the story, but the bottom line is I don't think my Mother should be driving or living alone and the 2 Trustees and my Mother's Trust Attorney refused to do anything. Her Trust Attorney basically told me to butt out and that she is being "monitored very closely by her Doctors"-not true as I call them all the time.
My Mother is still complaining that neither of my siblings return her calls. This has been verified by my Cousin.
I will be visiting my Mother soon-should I contact someone and who would it be?
Any advise would be welcomed!!!