I am presently helping / taking care of my 94 year old (soon to be 95) grandmother. Gran is pretty much self sufficient (..but I have taken on responsibilities of the household - paying bills, any needed repairs..things of that nature) and knows her limitations (gait disorder/must use walker/no steps if I'm not there). Lately gran has decided to move furniture (pull out chairs/recliners) when home alone. No clue why, she has even admitted that she doesn't even know... I've tried repeatedly to explain it to her -- then have her explain it back to me. She does understand (no official dementia diagnosis - has been screened by family doctor as well as a neurologist) but I'm at a loss... just got home from work and noticed the furniture is out of place... I know she moved it. I didn't even have to ask - she volunteered the information. I'm upset. I'm frustrated. I don't know what else I can do? She says 'I wish we could just get along'. This has nothing to do with getting a long. Am trying my best to keep her safe (no falls). Last major fall (2012), ended up in the local hospital, but ended up being transferred to a level one hospital (original diagnosis was occipital fracture. Luckily the level one hospital said no skull fracture - but kept her for three days observation in the neuro ICU). I still have nightmares of my uncle's girlfriend blaming me (..I wasn't there when she fell, it is not my fault). When I tried to defend myself, she threatened to physically assault me (..grateful for hospital security, they stopped her before the fist hit my jaw). I know it wasn't my fault, but I still blame myself. Family knew about the threat of physical violence, but no one held her accountable (most have made excuses for her attempted violent actions) - ever. I'm petrified of her doing something stupid that would result in a fall. I don't want to be assaulted by family/uncle's girlfriend. I have been putting up signs on furniture - 'Do not touch/no moving'. Trying to avoid another head injury (..at her age, scared next injury would be fatal). Any thoughts/suggestions on what I can do so things 'stick' while I'm at work? She doesn't want to go into a nursing home, and I respect it. Family doctor/neurologist even said she isn't ready to be in a nursing home.
Misc detail....We do have a hospital bed in the dining room (since 2012) - I have a lamp in the kitchen (it illuminates a path from the bed to the powder room). Many times, I have caught her turning off the lamp in the middle of the night. What can I do so that she won't turn off the lamp while it is night time? Looking for suggestions...help??