Hello everyone. My mom is 84, and was diagnosed with vascular dementia a year ago. However, she was at the advanced stage that prompted the diagnosis for a good two years before that.
I actually have two questions:
*1: Can anyone share their suggestions on how to move mom into a Memory Care facility or an AL facility? She’s not likely to go gracefully - she frequently states that “there’s nothing wrong with her” and she doesn’t need to leave her home. She won’t allow me to hire an aide. My husband and I moved into her home to care for her - but my own chronic health issues are making it impossible, and I will be unable to continue living with her. She’s currently in a rehab facility following a brief hospitalization, and will likely be discharged soon. It would be ideal if we could just transition her directly into an AL or MC facility upon discharge - but we don’t have a facility in place yet.
I’d like the transition to be smooth and easy for her, with as little stress or trauma as possible. Any suggestions would be so greatly appreciated!
*And 2: What is a realistic life expectancy for a vascular dementia patient after diagnosis? Knowing she’s been at this advanced stage for almost three years, feelings of panic have begun to settle around my heart. I’ve seen so much varying info - I just want to know how much longer we’ll have with her.
Thank you, village.