Some background: I'm 23, just recently graduated college, and found my first decent job early last year. My father passed away last year, leaving a monthly employer pension and veteran's affairs benefits for my mother to collect. Plus, my mother will be able to collect social security as early as next year. She doesn't work right now, and she doesn't really need to with her current income. Assuming that these benefits don't become reduced at any point in her life, she will be able to live a somewhat lavish lifestyle and retire. I agreed to stay with her and help pitch in for the bills until she is able to collect social security, as to help her save and see if she can get rid of most, if not all, of her debt before then. While she means well, living together after so long has taken a toll on our relationship with each other and I don't see her as someone I enjoy living with at this point. So, as soon as she becomes eligible to collect social security, it's vamoose for me. The problem is, as soon as I leave, I believe that she won't be able to handle common problems that arise from everyday life. Prior to my father's passing, he took care of literally every problem that came up for both my mother and I. Now, I'm kind of picking up the pieces and learning as I go; I guess you call this "being an adult". While I feel like I have a pretty good handle on things and can probably come up with, or at least find, a solution to any issue that comes up, I can't say the same for my mother. I guess part of the reason for this is that my mother's English is poor, as she is a native from South Korea and moved here back in the late 90s. She can speak English well enough to get her point across, in my opinion, she just doesn't convey confidence in what she says and she thinks everyone is confused when she talks to them. While my relationship with my mother isn't healthy, I still have an interest in her well being once I'm out of the house. My concern is that once I leave, she won't be able to maintain the current lifestyle she lives and will eventually have so many problems that she'll beg for someone to help her (a.k.a. me). If her car needs an oil change, she'll come to me to either take it to a dealership or change it myself. If the dog's toenails get too long, she'll just leave them for me to trim and/or take to the groomers. If she has to talk on the phone to ANYONE about anything she doesn't have the answer to, she brings the phone to me. Like, I understand that she just needs help every now and then but, she doesn't even make an attempt to try to learn how to do things for the future or try to figure something out for herself if I'm not around. It'll just sit until she just forgets about it or I find out and realize it needs to be done. I've brought up this issue with my mother and she claims that her English is too poor and that I can articulate things better or that her eyes aren't good enough to read the documents that come in the mail anymore - which reminds me that she still needs me to set up an appointment with an eye doctor at some point when I get a day off from work. Maybe this post just turned into a huge rant but, my question is still the same. How can I even begin to think about moving out when my mother would be incapable of taking care of herself and their assets? Should I just have confidence in her to learn the hard way when I move out? Are there any methods out there that I'm missing that will help me ease her into an independent lifestyle?