My partner and I moved in with my parents in 2002. Initially they were doing us the favor and it had its tense moments but mostly it was doable. Then after a while we realized they really needed some help so we stayed. My father developed lung cancer in 2009 and died at home in 2010. Since then we've been taking care of my mother. My mother is a difficult person. She's what you might call a covert narcissist. We've been very trapped as she is very needy and it's hard for us to do anything independent. I have a sibling who does next to nothing. In fact he's only given us one week's break in the last 8 years. My mother totally forgives him and makes excuses for him. However, she has finally set the will to 66/33 but there might be nothing left. We can't stand living like this anymore. We need to feel way more relaxed when we are at home, we need way more independence and I need to not be responsible 24/7 for someone else. My mother wants to stay in her home so we're not sure how to make this work for her. We've thought about Adult Foster Care and we've thought about talking to Adult Protective Services to see what our rights our. Any thoughts? Has anyone else managed to navigate this kind of transition?