How can I help my disabled elderly relative with his messy toileting issues?

I have used the condom catheter lots as an RN. And I think it may be time to give Dad choices....that are all OK with you and his son! "Dad, it is time to consider sitting down to pee.....OR you will have to wear this thing that permits you to pee into a bag that we empty.... because it's not healthy for you or us, to have the bathroom get all messy all the time. " Period. Have the doctor tell him too....that this is what he must do, along with wearing the 'new underwear'.....don't call them 'diapers'....just 'new underwear for men'. And if you can get into tracking his poop times....perhaps, as in potty training a child, you can get to where you sort of know when he will have to do that job, and get him on the toilet ahead of time? And one other point...nursing homes and memory care units do better with having elderly stay continent, if they toilet at regular times a day, as soon as out of bed, before and after each meal, and before going to bed....and every two hours in between. Tell them to squeeze out what they can each time. And give them extra to drink too, cause elderly are generally chronically dehydrated. Many do not want to drink because they understand they will have to go pee more and they don't want to take a chance on accidents, or it's too hard to sit down and get up....but it does come down to 'use it or lose it' in terms of ability. The exercise is really good for them and keeps them mobile and flexible longer, and the urinary system working without infections longer and better.....

My husband's testicles swell up so bad that he can't find his penus to pee, besides he can not walk, so the pee ends up on carpet any suggestions

My father-in-law is 86 years old with Parkinson disease. he has to get up 4 to 5 times in the night to pee but he can barely get up and stand. he doesn't wane use a diaper at night. - so he doesn't get enough sleep at night.
so I bought him Urinal Toilet Aid Loo W/ Brief/Bag. bud his penny is very small and we don't know where to strap the Bag too. Somebody out there with this kind of Problem to help and to explain the best results. thanks.

My son is mentally and physically handicapped. He also is blind in one eye with poor vision in the other. He literally pees on the floor and only hits the toilet rarely. I have tried pet wee wee pads, toilet rugs, having him sit(he is too big to sit and pee) and towels around the base. That works the best, but then I have to constantly wash urine soaked towels. I was hoping someone had a better idea.

I have a question. Have any of you tried one of those urinal anti-bacterial mats? They are disposable. We have hard wood floors in the bathroom my husband uses. Missing the toilet has just about ruined them for anyone else using that bathroom. Because he has no sense of smell, he doesn't believe me when I tell him how bad the urine smell is. :( I guess I may have to pull the hardwood out and put tile down. Any ideas?

Sitting to pee is the better way for all those elderly gentlemen who are mentally intact enough to understand the advantages. And it sure is a good thing for them to learn when they are already on the way downhill. I guess it would be very hard to teach an old dog new tricks.

I have this problem, too, and I am getting tired of taking the piece of carpeting out every few days and hosing down. He had the piece around the toilet cut out, but we still have this problem.
So I have considered asking him to pee into the shower. Don't know if this will solve the problem, or even if I can get him to consent, but I thought I throw this out as one way to deal with the problem. If you try this, you will have to tailor the idea to your own situation, but maybe your parent can walk into a shower, with come kind of flip-flops, pee and then if you have a shower head with a hose, you can wash around the private parts and use a towel to dry off, if he or she has messed him/herself.
Just a thought...

My dad did that. The hospice nurse and I convinced him to make both pee and poo while sitting down. And, after numerous cleanings and angry outbursts, he got it! Also, I still have piles of brown towels and wash cloths we used for him.

My husband has progressive aphasia and is in dementia conditions now. I can't get him to wear depends or sit down when he urinates. He misses the toilet when
he pees, but the worse thing is when his bowel movements are the least bit loose...poop drops out down his pants leg and gets all over everything,,,he trys to wipe it off with socks, towels whatever he can find if I'm not there at the moment.
With all the rich holiday food and me distracted by family visiting, we've had a nightmare the last few days...I don't know what to do.