My husband's dementia started a long time ago and we didn't know it. Now 3 years into the disease where characteristics are showing up (can't operate phone or tech items, short term memory gone, personal care faltering, gave up walking, no affection toward me, lying, temper, and now delusions). Everyone that I am close to he has attacked verbally. He even attacked me where I thought he might hit me. Here's the clincher. He still converses with me, asks me on occasion how I'm feeling, is affectionate toward our 2 dogs, and will converse with strangers in a friendly manner. The man I married is almost gone. He is isolating me by yelling or acting badly toward the people who love me. I feel like I am alone on an island most of the time. He has been diagnosed by a neurologist. He is on medication but it doesn't seem to help. I have told his doctor and my doctor what's going on. Has anyone tried psychotropic drugs like Xanax to help with delusions? I said I would never place him outside the home but the stress and his anger is wearing me down. How do I tell if its time to rethink placement outside the home. He is 79 and I am 68. We've been together for 50 years. He thinks he is fine because he says he's back to normal. He has vascular dementia. I used to cry constantly but that has stopped. We do not have any family to help us. Everyone is elderly.