I have left home twenty years ago to be with my actrual husband and start a family. I now have two children age 4 and 11, I work for an airline company, my life is here. My mom started to have neurological problems 3 years ago and now needs fulltime care which she has, a lady stays at home as an au-pair and takes care of a lot more than just my mom.
My brother decided to come and live with mom three years ago to take care of her and the house which he is senimentally attached to in this town we almost grew up in. He actually has no job and no wife or children. He constantly makes me feel guilty about this and for not doing as much as he is...what can i do more? taking mom with me and my family for two weeks during our summer holidays, having her at home in august for three weeks, bringing her to see her family on the other side of the ocean, seeing her almost every months at her place or having her at mine with everything this demands from attention for her and the kids with no help. It is never enough for him.
I suggested to transfer mom close to me, he doesn't trust i will carefully be there for her. I mean com'on, gimme a break, i want him to understand that i cannot take his place and give him mine and i would lie someone to explain to him that sibblings aren't always doing it wrong, communication is the key: